In life, no matter what level of success you’ve achieved, and irrespective of the failures you might have had, there will always be areas for improvement.
Whether you are struggling with something, or whether you are looking to optimize something, there is always an upgrade available to you.
Everyone is in the current version of their situation. And for everyone there is always a better version of their situation.
This is a core, scientific principle we believe in.
The four key areas we work on are mind, body, relationships and business.
We’ve worked with entrepreneurs, executives and professionals in many different industries and in each case we have discovered a better version of their situation.
Once this core principle is accepted it prompts the following two questions.
How do I find the better version of my situation?
How do I take action that leads me into that better situation?
To answer these questions we need you to understand a little bit about your brain.
Your Brain Is A Pattern Generator
Our brains identify and replay patterns of activity. Once a certain pattern has produced a successful outcome, it will tend to replay that pattern. This pattern might not be the most effective pattern, it might only produce partial success, and it might also produce unwanted side effects.
Nevertheless, once a pattern is established, it will stay within the brain and continue to produce the same results. And it will do this for you on autopilot, even if that pattern has ceased to be useful.
You are often not consciously aware of this pattern and the results it is creating for you – whether they are positive, negative, or both.
These patterns, in total, create the current version of your situation.
In an athlete for example, these patterns produced the current level of their success, and yet these patterns might also be keeping them from further success. This idea is conveyed in the common idea that says ‘the level of thinking that created a problem is not the level of thinking that will solve the problem’.
In a podcast I had with 7 times world female surf champion Layne Beachly, she recounted the story of how she had to learn to surf again … after she’d already won the world championship … and by learning to surf again, she became even better. And this is what led her to win 7 championships … an outstanding achievement.
This is why, if you want to recognise and move toward a better version of the situation, it is essential to escape your perspective – to escape your current thinking – to escape your current patterns.
And this is a core principle of Possibility to Actuality program.
To find to the better version of the situation, you need to escape your current perspective.
Escaping your perspective is not as easy as it sounds, and we describe it as trying to jump on your own shadow. Our conscious mind finds it difficult to see and think ‘outside the box’, and there are a number of reasons for this, with neurotags being one of the most important.
Your Brain Produces Predictable Results Through Neurotags
A neurotag is a predictable output from a network of neurons that produce that output. A neurotag includes memories, meaning, emotions, images, sounds, and sensations. Whenever that neurotag is triggered, the output is the same.
For example, in people with back pain, they have a "back pain neurotag". That neurotag might be associated with a memory of the persons back ‘hurting’ when they bent over to pick up something from the ground.
We know from research that if a person with back pain sees an image of someone else bending over to pick up something from the ground, that their back pain will feel worse just by seeing that image. That’s because his or her ‘back pain neurotag’ was triggered by the visual image of someone bending over.
Entrepreneurs, executives and professionals have brains full of neurotags … both positive and negative. And these neurotags produce automatic outcomes that we are not aware of … some good, and some not so good.
For example, let’s say a manager is friendly and genuinely interested in their staffs’ wellbeing. In stressful circumstances however, particularly those with deadlines involved, the manager becomes distant, diminishing, and authoritarian.
This is the managers ‘deadline’ neurotag, and it’s worked well enough in the past. When they’ve faced deadlines, and they’ve been ‘distant, diminishing and authoritarian’, they have successfully met that deadline. Every time the manager faces a deadline, the ‘deadline’ neurotag is triggered, and with it the distant, diminishing and authoritarian behavior.
We know that this type of behavior is not optimal. We don’t need research to confirm how unpleasant it is to be managed by someone who behaves this way during the rush to a deadline.
Yet, the manager might not understand that this is happening. In fact, they might not notice the change in their behavior at all.
This manager is stuck in their current perspective, which causes them to be stuck in their current situation. For them to move to a better version of the situation, they first need to escape their current perspective, recognise a better one, and then move toward it.
And yet still, this is not so easy.
Non-Conscious Processes Have A Great Impact On Thoughts, Feelings, Decisions and Behaviors.
The majority of our decisions are influenced by emotion. This is simply a fact of human brain science – it is the way you and I are wired.
In fact, research has shown that even when people are solving mathematical equations – arguably the most right-brained, logical activity we can do – they perform much better if their ‘emotional’ brain is also engaged in the process.
Our emotions do not start in our consciousness. They start deep within our brains, separate from logic and rationale thinking. These non-conscious emotions consume large amounts of energy and brain resources and also impact our ability to think creatively and effectively.
Non-conscious emotions such as fear, embarrassment, shame, doubt, anger, and grief all trigger specific neurotag networks in our brains that guide our behavior without us having to think about it.
But when these neurotags are triggered, people might tend to forget names, miss meetings, become isolated, feel short tempered, become accident prone, and find it hard to think clearly.
They feel fatigued. They don’t seem to be having as much fun as they used to have. Things aren’t flowing. They feel like they might have lost their mojo.
If left unresolved, this can develop into a variety of conscious success related problems, such as plateau syndrome, fraud syndrome, and summit syndrome.
People begin to doubt their abilities, forget how they became successful, and discover that they lack clarity around their ‘purpose’ or their ‘why’.
Their goals can become meaningless, they might develop a sense of apathy, and they develop an increasing sense that they have to ‘do something’ to break out of this … but they’re not sure what to do, and fear keeps them stuck in their current perspective.
In fact, in this fear based state, they can also become defensive.
They might find it hard to acknowledge the current situation. They might not want to admit that there is a problem, and this leads to more isolation.
When others offer suggestions to help it is interpreted as an accusation and the person will defend their current situation, which prevents them from escaping it.
These are just some examples of the emotional ‘blockages’ that prevent us from escaping our perspective and stop us from moving into a better situation.
The Possibility to Actuality Program
We use Neuro Coaching Processes (NCP) to help you escape your perspective quickly and easily.
Once you have escaped your perspective and recognise the better version of the situation, we then help you discover how to take action to move into that better situation.
The Neuro Coaching Processes
There are numerous processes we use to facilitate change, and these are based on the unique needs of the client. We group these processes into the following:
These processes typically take between 20 to 50 minutes, however with practice the time for processing can become quicker.
For each process, you will be asked to establish a goal for the session. The details of the process will be explained and you will be asked a variety of questions, depending on which process we are running.
Once we begin the process, you will enter into a calm state of present-time awareness. This is a well documented and evidence-based procedure that calms the mind and enables you to fully participate in the process.
Once in this state, you will be presented with a series of questions. These questions might be alternating or repetitive. The questions are designed to bring you into a highly creative state.
Your mind will become free to present you with new ideas, thoughts, and insights that arise from being in this state.
Participants are often surprised by their capacity to see things from a new perspective. Often they are surprised, in a positive way, with the answers their mind produces for them. They often describe a state of unusual peace and deep clarity.
From this description you can see that this is not meditation. It is not counselling or cognitive behavioral therapy. Instead, these neuro-coaching processes are designed to enable you to simply, peacefully and easily escape your perspective and search for a better one.
Once you have found the better perspective, we then discuss the strategy and actions required for you to create that better perspective and turn it from being a possibility into an actuality.